Breakups are an unfortunate part of life. They are painful and they are messy. It is too difficult to face breakups and most people both mentally and physically become unhealthy. Nowadays more and more people are turning to psychotherapy to deal with a range of issues including dealing with the loss felt during a breakup, you realize you still have feelings for your ex and want to be with them again.
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How to get ex back
- Avoid contact for the first month after break up
It is extremely important in taking time during one month to get to know yourself as an individual. This is the exact time to identify the flaws of the relationship and do the hard work to improve as a human being. Begging will make you look like a weak and insecure person. If you are begging, they decide to leave you. They are prepared to go through you’re begging and pleading.
- Focus on yourself
Try to be a busy personality after your breakup. So most often it helps you to come out from your memories with your soulmate. Hang with your friends and throw yourself into work.
- Do not pursue your ex during this time
That means no calling, texting, or asking around about how he or she is doing. Don’t try to force your ex to think about him or her. let your ex have some time to find out if you are the one. Do not ask your ex questions about whether he or she is seeing anyone.
- Find out if they are still interested
Before you start trying to win back your ex’s heart, need to know whether he or she still cares or not.
- Work on your self-esteem
You want to think positively about yourself and always try to believe yourself. If you feel you are a useless personality, make yourself useful. if you want to improve your self-esteem, concentrate on your strengths in all areas: emotional, social, talents and skills, appearance, and any others that are important to you.
- Be the person your ex fell in love with
Try to recall your memories with your ex and what you have done for her or him. And also try to think back to when the two of you first get together. You want to re-correct the mistakes if you have done any.
- Improve your appearance
If you try to do something new to your appearance, you can try to regain the attraction. Make yourself stand out and seem fresh from what your ex remembers you.
- Ask your ex to talk with you
Gradually you can win the heart of your ex and next trying to have an intimate chat with her or him. Invite your ex over for dinner or head out to your favorite coffee shop.
- Prepare your words
Words play a huge role when communication between two is going on. If you say wrong words, you will lose the opportunity to get them back. So you want to be careful when you chat with your ex.
Take full responsibility for the offense, without blaming your ex, giving excuses, or expecting an apology.
Rules you should follow when you text your ex
You must use impactful methods and tools if you want to win your ex back. You want to be more careful when you text your ex back.
- Don’t text him or her when you are drunk.
- You need to make sure that he or she is the right person for you. Don’t try to rebuild your affair if you don’t have feelings for him or her.
- Don’t be overly emotional
- Don’t start to fight which is not suitable
- Don’t text million times if your ex doesn’t respond.
- Don’t text something boring .dodododododododododon’t text your ex something like” hey” or “how is it going”? These are boring texts and won’t force your ex to write back to you.
- Don’t bring up past drama. Don’t try to recall your memories. Don’t ask why he or she broke up with you. And also don’t ask him or her why he’s or she’s ignoring you.
Signs your ex will eventually come back
Around 30% of people get their ex back after a breakup. Yet out of that 30% only, 15% stay together in a healthy relationship. The remaining 15% break up again after getting back together.
- Have an on/off relationship
The significant sign that your ex will come back on their own if you had an on/off relationship.it implies the relationship follows a pattern of breaking up and getting back together after a short while. If your relationship with your ex has a pattern of breaking up and together, then there is a nice opportunity that pattern will continue and your ex will finally come back.
- Heated arguments
Most often couples break up because of a heated disagreement or because they are very upset about something. Most often people break up because of instant temper. Later, the partner comes back when they realize that the decisions are wrong. If your ex broke up with you because of an argument, then there is a nice opportunity they will change their mind.
- Had a good relationship
If you had a good connection with your ex, then there is a good opportunity they will come back. If you both of you trusted each other, spent a lot of time together, it can be named as a good relationship. A good relationship does not imply that you did not argue with your partner. Some arguments are common in every relationship. But if you argue the whole time with the partner, your relationship was not a healthy connection.
If you truly want to get back with your ex, you have to first fix what led to the breakup. If you do not do that, sometimes you lose your partner forever.